We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face… we must do that which we think we cannot. –Eleanor Roosevelt

My children are taking that big step from teenager to semi-adult. Or as I told my son, he is now becoming a baby man. But as they move into the realm of responsibility it is so difficult to have to stand back and let them learn. As Eleanor says each time they face fear and move forward they grow. But each time they have to do so, they also can find pain and sometimes failure. I do sometimes wish life was like a video game, where you could reset your game and fight the bad guy just one more time. But while literally we cannot have a do-over we can take the experience with us to the next challenge.

While, I sound so confident and sure of myself on this matter, I will have to admit that the obstacles that life tosses me are often overwhelming and scary even now. I can look back at myself when I was my children’s age and realize how much I thought I knew but also now I know how naive I was. Although, I will say that I don’t regret my choices now, because of how things turned out. Some of my choices did make life more difficult. I suppose as a parent I want things to be easy for my children. But by wishing for such a thing, I would also be robbing them of the feeling of succeeding, where they didn’t believe they could. They also would miss out on making those painful mistakes that often define turning points in our lives.

So part of me facing my greatest fear, is facing my children are growing up, and hoping they have the tools to stare fear in the face and become their adult-selves. Growing up is such a process, I’m still in the process myself, so I imagine the journey will continue for both myself and my children. As a mother I will always be here to guide them, but they must make their own adventures as they move forward and fight their own monsters.

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